Tag: gender
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It’s Okay to Change Your Name
It’s Fine to Take Your Spouse’s Name There are many reasons people still do it—and to misunderstand them is to misunderstand the possibilities of the modern family. Pacific Standard, Aug. 31, 2015 Is your name the heart of your identity, or a patriarchal hand-me-down? If you lose it, is that choice or capitulation? The debate…
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The Tyranny of Snacks
No, your kid may not have a snack The Washington Post, May 28, 2015 Not long ago, I got an e-mail from the mother of a child in my son’s class. The subject line alone was enough to jack up my blood pressure. “Aren’t we done with this already?” I fumed to myself. “They’re in…
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Married to the Mayor
Being City Hall’s Plus One Has Never Been So Complicated Next City, Aug. 25, 2014 A Forefront story; subscription required. No one can really say what the job of a mayoral first lady (or gentleman) is, and that includes the people who’ve held it. What are you supposed to do when you’re married to the…
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Leaned in, Screwed Over
As a new mother, I put everything on the line for my job. I wish I hadn’t. Medium, July 22, 2013 Shortly before the end of my maternity leave, I called my boss to discuss my new schedule. We’d agreed that I would work from home two days per week—but which days, we hadn’t decided.…
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Against Work-Life Balance
Parlour, Jan. 10, 2013 “Why should I let the toad work / Squat on my life?” asked the poet Philip Larkin in 1954. Since then, the notion that work and life are more or less antithetical – that work interferes with our enjoyment of “real”, personal or family life – has become entrenched. It has…
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